When Society Doesn’t Fit

October 30th, 2012 Posted by Susan's Musings 2 comments


I will be speaking with Mr. Mackall this coming Sunday when I
sit in for my husband on his radio show on KSFO
(560 AM). With the clock
changing this week, even the 5-8 a.m. Pacific Time slot won’t seem as early as
usual.  If you’re not local—listen online. I’d love to talk to you; call
in at 415-808-5600!


Sometimes, approaching a familiar topic from an unexpected
angle provides perspective. When a writer presents a peek into an unfamiliar
culture and he is motivated by interest rather than by an agenda, he offers that opportunity. A book I recently read, Plain
Secrets: An Outsider Among the Amish
by Joe Mackall gave me not only a
glimpse into the highly traditional Swartzentruber Amish community, but
unexpectedly set me thinking in new ways about segments of the Jewish
population as well.

As a neighbor of the Shetler family, developing mutual trust
and affection over the course of years, Mr. Mackall writes about his friends
and their lives from his outside position. It is clear that he values much of
what he sees, including their self-sufficiency, community support and deep
faith.   Much of their lives is alien to his
‘normative’ way of thinking, yet he doesn’t succumb to being negative about
something simply because it is different from his own path. When he does
respectfully reveal some reservations, the reader is drawn along as he reasons
through his ideas.

The area where Mr. Mackall faces greatest internal conflict
revolves around the dilemma of members of the Swartzentruber community who
choose to leave. While the overwhelming majority of children upon reaching
maturity pattern their own lives on those of their parents, there are those who
choose an alternate path.  Relating to
children who reject your belief system is difficult for any parent and among
the Amish the reaction can seem harsh in our ‘anything goes’ society. However,
what particularly intrigued me was the author’s thought process as he tried to
sort out his feelings about an unusual impediment placed in these youths’ way. Since
the education provided by the community is lacking by general society’s
standards, the ‘rebels’ are missing skills needed to thrive in the outside
world. In addition to the emotional toll, the practical roadblocks to
successfully leaving the community are many.

There are Hassidic sub-groups within the religious Jewish
world (sometimes incorrectly referred to as ultra-Orthodox) who similarly cap
their children’s learning at points that leave the students with poor mastery
of the English language along with ignorance of information necessary for
living in the modern world. Their children, too, are tremendously challenged if
they decide to live a more mainstream lifestyle. Being less emotionally
connected to the Swartzentruber saga than I might be with Jewish groups, this
book helped me think about this predicament in more of an intellectual rather
than an emotional way.

It is easy to have an immediate knee-jerk reaction, “Parents
shouldn’t be allowed to limit their children’s education,” but, in reality,
every parent does so. My children may have been exposed to Shakespeare and the
history of the French Revolution, but they have no skills in animal husbandry
or years of training in woodworking. Some kids have years of music lessons while
others spend similar hours on sports or in front of a large screen TV. Is it
more harmful to withhold trigonometry than to withhold a spiritual and
religious view of the world, as secular parents often do? As a society, why
would we accept that parents and schools might teach that abortion is harmless
and capitalism is evil, but not grant parents and schools the choice to limit
exposure to certain literature? Is it harder for an eighteen year old to catch
up on English and science skills or to undo the harm from a premature
introduction to sexuality?

The reality is, that every parent picks and chooses among a
limitless array of ideas and skills that he can present. The fact that the
majority of a culture may agree on certain requirements does not mean that those
choices are necessarily more valuable than others are. Leaving aside blatantly
abusive or disturbed parents, do we really expect government chosen standards to
do a better job than parents in nurturing children and adequately preparing
them for life? Those youth who leave the Swartzentruber community do need to
work hard to establish a new life, much as immigrants do. Paradoxically, had
they been better equipped for living in the mainstream when they were growing
up, they would have missed many of the benefits they did receive.

I have read and relished some truly thought-provoking books
in the past few months. This book is one of those that lingers in my mind. What
books set you thinking?





James says:

I wonder if you have read The Bright Lady and the Astral Wind. Here is a book that will make you think. Some readers report, if they make it to the end, that its alternate overlook of reality turns their world perspective upside down.
The book explores the connectivity between people. You meet a total stranger and sense an uncanny connection that grows stronger and stronger, contrary to all reason. The New Agers steeped in Hindu or Buddhist conventions zealously rush to invoke ‘reincarnation’ as a glib and convenient means to justify déjà vu. But not this book.
Sir Arthur Conan Doyle would chuckle at this book, for it merges the two phases of his odd career: the otherworldly psychic question and the pragmatic rationalism that gave us Sherlock Holmes. You and the Rabbi would clearly recognize Biblical antecedents for many episodes in this book. For example, was the burning bush there for everyone to see, yet only Moses opened his eyes? And the Rabbi with his calm scientific background would appreciate the atmosphere of skepticism and factual investigation that predominates until the final silent explosion.
It also features a travelogue of journeys, pilgrimages in Wales and Ireland.

Bob says:

Mrs. Lapin
I listened to your program this past Sunday on the election and I am as disappointed as you are. In the spirit of lighting a candle instead of cursing the darkness, a thought occurred to me on what I can do to help our country in the vein of your comments on Mr. Mackall’s book.
You have mentioned that you homeschooled your children. I think this is the only way for people of ordinary means who can not afford private schools to protect their children from the poisonous influence of many public schools. This influence lead young people to vote for Obama by a huge margin.
My question for you is how can I help parents who are trying to do this? Is there an organization that I can contribute to? I have a PhD in engineering and perhaps I can help provide resources for homeschoolers to study mathematics and science. Designing and building things is a fun way for children to learn to apply subjects that otherwise do not seem relevant to them.
Anyways, I am open to ideas. We need to take back our culture and this seems a place to start.

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