What Are You Really Teaching?

August 14th, 2018 Posted by Homeschooling, Practical Parenting 6 comments

Each parent cares more about some areas of learning than others. If I want my child to be at home in many places, I may emphasize languages. Maybe I care more about English skills than science fluency or the other way around. Sports, dance, music and art are examples of other sectors that some of us care about more and others care about less.

For those of us who are religious, teaching Bible, Torah and religious texts is important. Herein lies a dilemma. We can sometimes forget what our goal is.

For Jews who are faithful to God, Sabbath observance is a core of our lives. Yet, my husband tells of men he observed when he was a young boy, who would smoke (a Sabbath violation) as they studied traditional Jewish texts with great erudition on the Sabbath. Their knowledge was intellectual but skipped their Jewish souls.

What I really care about when it comes to teaching Torah to my children is that they have a close relationship with God and His Word. I am not interested in their getting a PhD in religious studies; I want this relationship to be at the core of everything they do.

However, knowledge does matter. Their relationship is likely to be stronger if they are comfortable with Hebrew. Knowing verses by heart means that they can call on them as needed. Being familiar with texts lets them have a more mature relationship with the Torah as they grow rather than being stuck with juvenile Bible stories. The only way to achieve this proficiency is through often laborious study that will sometimes have them complaining and frowning.

I reposted a Susan’s Musing, Should I or Shouldn’t I, that is somewhat on this topic. The fact is that any worthwhile endeavor takes a lot of work. Yet, people who laze through their lives aren’t generally as happy or successful as those who learn to work towards a goal with diligence and rigor. “No pain, no gain,” applies to learning as well as to exercise.

At a young age, before they have the thrill of mastery, children’s feelings towards God and religion will be formed largely by the atmosphere in their homes. If Bible, synagogue or church, holidays and prayer are greeted with warmth and excitement, that is how they will feel. If they associate their parents with coldness and stress, that is the lens through which they will see God.

I was not successful in always making Bible and religious studies fun and exciting. Sometimes it was just hard work. I’m sure I could have done better. I probably sometimes wrongly held back in my demands out of fear of negative associations as often as I missed opportunities to bring lessons alive. The delicate balance between challenging the intellect, maintaining standards and nurturing the soul, all of which are necessary, is a tightrope that every parent, homeschooling or not, walks.

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6 comments

Crystal says:

Susan, thank you so much for taking the time to start this second blog post for parenting. I know it takes time yet there is a serious need for it. Alas, I am a childless widow so will not be subscribing. However, as doors open, I will definitely let people know this resource is now available. Thank you again.

Susan Lapin says:

Thank you, Crystal. I hope it can be a support to many.

Jen Conner says:

As our family starts another homeschool year in just a week this was very timely! Thank you for sharing your wisdom.

Susan Lapin says:

What fun, Jen. What ages are your children?

Gisel says:

I’m so glad you are sharing your personal experiences with homeschooling. I’m looking forward to learn more from you. I’ve been homeschooling my 3 boys for 8 years . God bless you Susan!

Susan Lapin says:

Gisel, I hope you and others will share your own experiences. I always learned so much from others and still love hearing about what people are doing.

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