Blank, the world would be a better place. Insert your own phrase for ‘blank’. For instance, if everyone minded their own business, the world would be a better place. If everyone walked around smiling, TWWBABP. If animal activists would just let us eat our hamburgers in peace, TWWBABP. Or how about this one from a recent book by the chief operating officer of a large Internet company: “A truly equal world would be one where women ran half our countries and companies and men ran half our homes. I believe that this would be a better world.”
Have you noticed that many cars driving on our roads are occupied by a man and a woman sitting in the front seats? Of course you have. Have you noticed what percentage of these cars are being driven by the man? It’s nowhere near 50%. Surely half the time, as a couple heads to their car, the woman should say, “Honey, throw me the keys, I’ll drive.” Yet whether in Los Angeles, Dallas, Boston, or Baltimore, the reality is that the man is driving about 90% of those cars.
Here’s another social studies question: Have you noticed that in the overwhelming percentage of couples, the man is taller than the woman? The actual figure is that in 93% of couples, the man is taller than the woman. Now I know just what you’re thinking, ”…well, on average men are taller than women.” But in the United States the average height difference between men and women is 6 inches. However, at more than six feet, female tennis star Venus Williams is taller than half of American men. Meanwhile at 5 feet 4 inches, actor Michael J, Fox is shorter than about half of American women. So if we mixed and matched all marriageable men and women at random, a statistical analysis quickly shows that we’d find that men are taller than women in only about 75% of couples. This proves that in the real world, couples prefer the man to be taller. Either the man seeks out shorter women or the woman seeks out taller men. Or perhaps both.
Don’t you think that in these egalitarian times about half of the marriages solemnized this year should be occurring because the man proposed to the woman and half because the woman proposed to the man? Yet, you know the truth. Over 98% of couples marry after the man proposes marriage. What has happened to strong and equal women? Are they anxiously waiting for the men they’ve been dating to propose? Apparently, yes.
You know those paperback romance novels taking up yards of bookshelf at your local bookstore and selling by the millions? Well, here’s an idea: Why don’t you start writing them? I am not saying it is easy to write books; it isn’t. But these books are fairly formulaic. By the end of every single example I’ve examined, the girl who has been romantically foundering for 200 pages finally falls for the guy. And best of all, he falls for her too. No, I err. Actually the best part is that he is always rich. Yes, always very rich. Why not once, just once, can’t I see a romance novel ending with the heroine putting her hand to her heaving bosom and declaring her love for the penniless slacker with a heart of gold? Women buy these books by the million.
These are just four examples where the real world seems to conflict with the utopian world dreamed of by very affluent and privileged women. My own eyes tell me that most women prefer sitting ‘shotgun’ and most men prefer being behind the wheel. Furthermore they assure me that most women prefer to be in a relationship with a man they can look up to literally and perhaps figuratively too. I have also discovered that most women want to be proposed to and most men will not marry a woman who proposes to them. Finally, from too much time spent awaiting flights in an airport bookstore, I know that the majority of women prefer reading of romance with a man far richer than they are.
In this topic, almost any romance novel will reveal more truth than a certain best-selling book for women written by a certain chief operating officer of a certain Internet company.
Thus I answer the question with which I headed this Thought Tool, namely are these words…
…male and female He created them.
(Genesis 1:27)
a sexist slur or a timeless truth?
Men and women are created differently from each other. While we are each unique, in general men and women find satisfaction and fulfillment in different ways. One can either take one’s life guidance from contemporary utopian dreams by elitist theorists or one can consult God’s instruction manual for humanity which has been proven by centuries of reliability.
I know this all flies in the face of popular culture and I ask you to see what I’ve written here merely as an introduction to the topic. The rest of the story takes a few hours for me to explain fully which I do in our audio CD program, Madam I’m Adam; Decoding the Marriage Secrets of Eden. If you or anyone you care for is working on getting married, staying married, or best of all, enhancing every aspect of their marriage, please use this guide. It is truly a worthwhile investment promising enormous return in the form of marital happiness and fulfillment. You see, the powerful problem is that the message we all subconsciously absorb from a relentless cultural barrage of news and entertainment is untrue. We are fed lies about human relationships. I would love for you to be armed with deep insights and timeless truth about our most important relationship. That is why I prepared Madam I’m Adam.
