The Not-Straight-A Report Card

June 21st, 2019 Posted by Practical Parenting 2 comments

It is the end of the school year, which means that scores of children are bringing their final report cards home to their parents.  While one hopes that the image of the stern father overlooking the many ‘A’ s while focusing on the lone ‘C’ is apocryphal, there is no denying the myriad subjects in which most students are expected to excel.

Writing in the New York Times, opinion writer Margaret Renkl recently observed, “School is the only place in the world where you’re expected to excel at everything, and all at the same time. In real life, you’ll excel at what you do best and let others excel at what they do best.”

These are powerful words. As I look back at my elementary and high school classmates, some of the most successful among us were not honor students. Whether we measure success by income, public achievement, community involvement or having happy and fulfilled family lives, some of the best students certainly seem to be successful—but then so do some of the least scholastic. Even if we measure by professional and academic success alone, a classmate who struggled to maintain a barely passing average may very well be at the top of his or her field. After all, you can be a brilliant chemist who has trouble writing a coherent paragraph or a best-selling author who thinks that the San Juan Islands are in Puerto Rico. However, a D in English or geography is not going to give you a superlative report card.

I’m all in favor or getting a broad education. At the same time, let’s remember that school is an artificial environment which shares only a partial resemblance to the rest of life.

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2 comments

Martin says:

Hi Susan,
This one has been a heart touching one indeed. In my family, it has always been supremely valued to perform well at school. This was the best meaning effort of course. My parents are well-payed specialists and wanted me to walk the same path. I remember how stressful it used to be to show up with my grades at home.
The sad part of this is though, that I wasted my early twenties at college (luckily government paid here). I was so focused on “real” careers, such as engineering, that I missed many opportunities in sales and organizing the efforts of others. Luckily I realized soon enough which way to go in life and now I am doing quite well.

Big thanks to Rabbi Lapin for his support in this transformation. His podcasts and books have been of tremendous help to me.

Have a great Shabbat,
Martin

Susan Lapin says:

Martin, yours is such an important story to share. Thank you for doing so.

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