It is perfectly natural to attribute one’s failures to things one’s parents did. It is perfectly normal to blame events or people in one’s past for present problems. But winners living successful lives don’t do that. Champions of achievement rarely do what is normal and what is natural. They know that blaming yesterday’s pain for today’s folly assures tomorrows of more of the same.
Jen Bricker could easily have abandoned her dream to become a gymnast. It would have been perfectly natural and perfectly normal for her to have blamed the genetic defect that caused her to be born without legs. But she became a gymnast.
Jaime Escalante wanted to become a great teacher. He could have blamed his South American accent for failing. Or he could have blamed being assigned to a ‘class of losers’ in a hopeless high school in East Los Angeles. But he turned those students of his into calculus stars and he himself became the star of the movie, “Stand and Deliver.”
Felix Zandman’s idyllic youth came to an end when as a teenager he was flung into a Polish ghetto. From there he was moved to a German concentration camp where he watched Nazi thugs murder his family. After enduring unimaginable trauma, he was liberated and finally found his way to America. He could have remained a victim, blaming the horrors to which he was subjected. Instead he built up a business into one of the world’s largest electronic component manufacturers, Vishay Intertechnology.
Nothing would have been more normal than for the Jews to have blamed millennia of dysfunction on hundreds of years of Egyptian slavery.