One of the big reasons that some people flourish while others just remain frustrated by their painful circumstances is shame. Shame about failing or about having failed. The mortification is painful enough to prevent any further attempts.
Of the hundreds of world cultures identified and studied by the great social anthropologist, Joseph Daniel Unwin, by far the majority associate failure with shame. Feeling embarrassment and shame after failure is common precisely because it is the normal and natural reaction to failure. Normal and natural it may be but that doesn’t mean that we should regard it as acceptable. Many things are normal and natural yet we correctly confine them to the private. Similarly, a private sense of humiliation upon failure is certainly normal and natural. But rising above those feelings is our human challenge.