When the waiter brings the bill, carefully placing it these days in the middle of the table, many women start slowly opening their purses, waiting for the man to insist on paying. So common is this female feint for the wallet, that it even has a name. It is called “The Reach.” But it is just a gesture. Even in these egalitarian days, by far most women expect the man to pay for the date.
According to several women’s magazines that I have perused, 77% of young women prefer the man to pay. Let me clarify that I do not for a moment believe that this is because these women are short of money or are trying to behave frugally at the expense of their dates. I think they have a far better reason for preferring to be with men who graciously pay for the date. Yet, if this is the case, why do so many women observe this ritual of “The Reach”?