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Who Are You Calling Names? by Judy Gruen

May 23rd, 2019 Posted by Susan's Musings 26 comments

I am delighted to share this platform today with my good friend, Judy Gruen. I think it’s a great reminder that each of us can choose to add kindness to the world with a simple act. 

Recently, I attended a memorial tribute for an elderly friend named Maurice. I had met Maurice and his wife, Mildred, back in the late 1980’s, when my husband, Jeff, and I had joined Pacific Jewish Center in Venice, the “Shul on the Beach.” We had been drawn there by the teachings of Rabbi Daniel Lapin and his wife, Susan, and their dynamic leadership that had begun to revitalize a once-thriving Jewish congregation.

Now, Maurice was a big man with a big personality, brash and bluntly opinionated. A strong baritone, Maurice usually seized the opportunity to begin prayers and hymns with his melodies of choice. His commanding voice and musical selections helped define the spiritual atmosphere of the synagogue for nearly 40 years.

Maurice was a colorful character, yet as people reminisced and eulogized him, it was clear that he had touched people by always remembering synagogue members’ full names, bellowing out his greetings: “Jacob Israel!” Or, “Leah Emunah!” His loud acknowledgement became one of his trademarks, but it didn’t end there.

He also remembered the names of extended family members, and he also remembered what troubles or issues they were dealing with.



Not Funny

October 25th, 2018 Posted by Susan's Musings 26 comments

When you eat only kosher food, as our family does, traveling has an added element of uncertainty. Will there be a kosher market or restaurant? What will the quality be? We are grateful that in the United States many national brands of crackers and other items are kosher and fruits and vegetable are easily accessible. Even so, after a few days tuna fish and peanut butter stave off hunger but don’t do much more than that.

To our delight, my husband’s recent speaking engagement was in a city that had a kosher restaurant. The place was clean and the food was delicious. What more could we ask?



Exit Laughing

March 8th, 2011 Posted by Susan's Musings No Comment yet

Have you ever met someone who simply doesn’t have a sense of humor? A few years back, I used a computer program to plan one of our daughter’s weddings. By entering data online, I could more easily keep track of invitations mailed, responses received and even table seating. Unfortunately, the program’s instructions were so confusing that I ended up frequently calling customer service. Each time I called, the same woman answered.

In general, when I speak with representatives of companies, I remind myself that they are fellow human beings with little sway over company policy or products.  I attempt to be not only polite but cordial. By the time I spoke with the same woman for the third time, I was making light-hearted comments and bantering. I may not be Lucille Ball (for those under a certain age substitute Tina Fey) but neither am I completely boring and it was disconcerting when this woman’s replies to various humorous remarks were non-existent. Each phone call became a challenge. Could I get her to sound like a person rather than a robot? When I eventually scored one giggle, it made my day.

Being an ardent admirer of the funny bone, I admit to being shocked to discover, while listening to reports of Charlie Sheen’s implosion, that his TV show is so popular. I have seen bits and snatches of it offered as inflight entertainment on airplane trips and invariably had no interest in watching a complete episode. Vulgar? Yes. Juvenile? Yes. Funny? No. Somewhere along the line my taste in comedy split from that of millions of fellow Americans.

Sheen’s popularity helped me understand my friend Judy’s challenge. Judy Gruen is a humor columnist whose articles appear in a number of publications, among them Women’s Day, Ladies Home Journal and online at Her three award-winning books are great pick-me-up reads on dreary days. An observant Jew, Judy eschews vulgarity and other forms of low comedy. In today’s age that immediately brands her in many eyes as out-of-date. How sad.

Because humor is so powerful, like fire and guns, it can be enormously helpful or catastrophically damaging. Reading a funny book or watching a funny movie provides a breather which makes it is easier to face life’s trials. At the same time, mockery and degradation disguised as humor contaminate relationships and tear down society.  It is one thing for a three year old to laugh at potty language or for an adolescent boy to smirk at sexual innuendo. Something is very wrong when those references, along with profanity, lead to a comedian’s popularity among adults. All in all, I wonder if we should be less concerned about what a lack of civility among politicians says about our society than by enormously popular humor which caters to the lowest common denominator.





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