It is quite exciting to tell ourselves, “This year is a new chance.”
“This year will reveal an improved version of ourselves. Just wait and see how our marriages, families and businesses thrive. It’s an opportunity for a new beginning.”
I’m all for looking ahead and upgrading our game. But let’s not be too quick to bury the past.
Imagine telling our kids, “Guess what! We’re going to Disneyland in three years’ time!” Or, “Guess what, Honey! We’re being transferred to Paris for two years; our flight’s this afternoon.” Both scenarios are equally ludicrous. It is also as absurd to fire an under-performing employee and give him twenty-four months’ notice as it is to tell him that he must be out and off the premises within an hour. What time is right?
How long should you spend psyching yourself up to propose marriage to your girlfriend? A week? A month? An hour?