A couple I knew, misunderstanding the meaning of being loving parents, raised their children with no rules and little restraint. You won’t be shocked to hear that their two kids grew into demanding little monsters.
The parents blamed the children’s teachers for why their children were ‘difficult’. They explained that their children ‘had issues’ because of preservatives in food. They blamed the tiny tyrants’ grandparents. They never were able to see their poor parenting as the central problem.
It’s hard to live an effective life when you are blind to cause and effect.
Imagine someone waking up on a recent morning in Washington DC, to discover that forty inches of snow fell in the night. Shivering with cold, he turns up the thermostat to no effect. He tries to turn on the lights, but the electricity is out.
Listen to him saying, “I can’t believe this! What bad luck! On the same morning, no heat, no lights, and on top of that, there’s a load of snow all over my yard.” He sees three separate, simultaneous but disconnected inconveniences, not comprehending that they are all linked.