I am a 61 yr. old Christian male. I was brought up in a strict home, children should be seen but not heard. My Father was a stickler about everything; lights, water, doors and was constantly correcting me. I too have become a nit picker.
I pray for Go d to grant me patience and understanding, but it is so hard for me. What can I do in addition? Is there a passage in the Torah/Bible which will give me guidance and help me to grow and become a better husband, grandfather etc.?
I don’t want people, my wife in particular, to become bitter and resentful towards me. G d willing you can give me an answer.
Oh by the way, my wife and I are regular watchers of your program on TCT. G d Bless you, your wife and family for you are a ray of hope in a dark world.
Wow. That is our reaction to your letter. Being willing to assess things afresh and to embrace the hard work involved in uprooting decades of bad habits makes you a rare individual. We feel proud to have you among the audience of our Ancient Jewish Wisdom TV show
While we greatly value prayer and Bible study, our answer is not going to be to read a few verses of Scripture or an exhortation to pray harder. We have something far more challenging for you to undertake. But it will work. We believe that when it comes to working on our character traits, only actions count. You should certainly pray for His assistance and there are many verses that can speak to your heart, but you need to take action.
One of the great flashes of Biblical insight that we can all use effectively to transform our lives for the better is this: It’s not our thoughts that change our actions as much as it is our actions that change our thoughts. Act now the way you would act if you already felt the way you wish you felt and your feelings will eventually fall into compliance with your actions. Please reread that last sentence again. Then you will understand why there is no more ardent advocate for the anti-smoking position than the former smoker who took the profound action of quitting.