Hi Rabbi and Susan,
My husband and I have just finished the audiobook of Business Secrets from the Bible. We are Christians and your teaching has just expanded our minds so much we are so grateful – and my husband who is in management had already seen great “fruit” from applying your biblical teachings in just the past week.
My question surrounds women returning to the workforce after children. I have an honours degree but have been primarily a stay home mother for nearly 8 years. Can I please have your wisdom on what point I should consider returning to work—would you recommend full time /part-time. I have 2 boys 6 and 8 years old. I want to serve my family but I also want to make some money!
I have had my own business in the past but understand it requires much attention. I really don’t want to outsource parenting but want to work. I do understand your teaching around 6 days work (which my husband does – and I do too (within the home) but not for money!
Your wisdom would be greatly appreciated
We are truly delighted your family has been blessed by Business Secrets from the Bible. Delighted, but not really surprised, Christie, because whether in Australia or in Chile, whether in 2020 or in 1720, the Manufacturer’s Roadmap to reality always applies and is always effective. A pat on the back to your husband for effectively following the principles in Business Secrets from the Bible.
A big pat on the back to you too for having been in the forward trenches of the home-front-lines these past 8 years and being able to focus on being a wife and mom. Though I don’t underestimate the importance of our book in your husband’s success, it takes second place to your being present as his wife. That usually contributes far more to the husband’s fiscal achievements than most couples realize. Wise and perceptive husbands know, acknowledge, and appreciate their wives’ contribution to their own economic performance.
Which leads naturally to the question you ask and the question we ask you in return. Looking only at hard dollar numbers, how would you react to this set of equations: (H -husband, W – wife, F – family)
NOW: H100 + W0 = F100
THEN: H85 + W30 = F115
Now, in the present, your husband makes, shall we say $100 while, with you, the wife, at home, although you contribute greatly to his fiscal effectiveness, you add $0 for a total family income of $100.
Then, let’s imagine that with you away at work, your husband’s income were to drop to $85 (not uncommon) but you were to earn $30, for a total family income of $115.
What would you say? For a 15% increase in family revenue, would you still go to work? This is an important though hypothetical question because how you answer it to yourself will tell you the answer to another question. Namely, is your motivation primarily monetary or are you looking for other things such as challenge, accomplishment and adult interaction?
We admire you for holding an honours degree, Christie, but you don’t tell us in what subject. Not to be frivolous, but if your degree is in 12th Century Byzantine Frescoes it has zero economic value to you right now, whereas if it is in actuarial science, working even part-time, you’d do rather well.
From your words, “but I also want to make some money!” rather than, “Our family could use some additional money,” we assume that while extra income would be helpful, your family is managing with what your husband earns. That gives you and your husband the luxury of choice, both in whether you return to paid work as well as what you do.
But make it a joint husband/wife decision. As any Bible enthusiast knows, in this world, for every positive there is a corresponding negative. Have a sober discussion about the marriage and family costs of a working wife and mom. The two of you should discuss what would be best and for how long it should be lived before a reevaluation is scheduled. The discussion will help lead you on the right path.
Is it possible that you are ready to branch out, but that this can occur without joining the paid workforce? We don’t know what your skills are, but you do mention having had your own business. Are you able to think of family and business as one unit rather than as competing entities? There is tremendous value in children growing up with a front-row seat in economics and real life. We assume that they are in school, but they (especially the eight-year-old) are not too young to pack boxes, answer phones professionally, check inventory, sweep up and do myriad other chores that running a small home business involves. Not only does it contribute valuable understanding about the real world of commerce, but it is tremendously valuable for every member of the family to recognize that he is part of a team and a greater enterprise.
On one hand, being an entrepreneur can consume many more hours than having a job, but it does leave you more in control of your time. Freelancing is another option that carries the negative of uncertainty but lets you scale back when needed. Today, with digital technology so prevalent and so accepted, there are hundreds of ways of serving other people from your home. We encourage you to explore these options. As you well know, family life can run smoothly but it can also dash up against rocky shores. Being able to adjust and step up with your sons when needed is terribly important.
Since we haven’t (yet) visited your wonderful country, we can’t speak about schools in Australia, but we do know that parents in the United States are quite wrong when they assume that their own values are being transmitted by the teachers who are spending most of every day with their children. This is, sadly, often true for private and religious schools as well as Government Indoctrination Camps. Technology, social media and other facets of our time also mean that this generation of children is in desperate need of parental attention. While your children don’t physically need you as they did when they were younger, they still greatly need for your husband and you to have a fantastic marriage (still one of the greatest gifts parents can bequeath their children) as well as a firm finger on the pulse of their lives.
We hope this gives both you and your husband some ideas to explore,
Rabbi Daniel and Susan Lapin
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2 thoughts on “Should I go back to work?”
oops…”what she Was doing previously”….
aloha and shalom, i want to say something about your comment about what subject she has for her degree when you say : ” if your degree is in 12th Century Byzantine Frescoes it has zero economic value to you right now “.
I was a tutor/ EA at a public school 7 years up to recently. Having only an AA degree made me earn a$13/hour. A friend of mine came to work this past year, having the exact same job as myself and she earned $22/hr from the get go just because she has a degree as a dental hygienist- having absolutely no experience nor years in the job. Another colleague of mine finished her online degree in the hotel industry and automatically got a raise at school, doing exactly what she as doing previously.
My point is that there are some jobs that get more income just by having a degree , even if it has absolutely no connection to what they will be actually required to do.
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