I would like to know how I can get God’s help in being successful in reaching top position in the area of finance when the competition is so high and there are people who are smarter than me and I have been encountering so many defeats and humiliation while I am working towards my goal.
Based on your letter, we are assuming that English isn’t your native tongue, but we hope we understand your question correctly.
Sometimes, when addressing live audiences, I (Rabbi Daniel Lapin) ask them if they think God wants us to be rich. Some say ‘yes’ and some answer, ‘no’. I then explain that God hasn’t shared His desire on this with me. However, I do know that a good and loving God, in the grand scheme of things, set up a system that rewards those of His children who devote their lives to helping His other children. In general, the more people you help and the more unique that help is, the better you will do financially.
All of this is to say, that if your goal is getting to the top of the ladder and getting rich, you’re wasting your time by asking God for His help. He has no interest in selfish humans. However, if your goal is to help other people, then you can proudly and confidently ask for God’s favor.
At the same time, however, there are no “tricks” to make God do what you want Him to do. Enlisting His help is vital, but in order to reach your goal you have to do everything in your power to act in accordance with how He wants us to behave. To illustrate an extreme, praying fervently and frequently while sitting home watching TV will get you nowhere.
You mention that others are smarter than you. Assuming a basic level of intelligence, which you obviously have, you can be confident that achievement doesn’t equate with IQ. Many of the world’s smartest people do very poorly in life, both socially and financially. Knowing how to understand and get along with others and how to work hard is of more value to most of us than a few more IQ points.
We’re sorry that you have felt humiliations while working towards your goal, but you may feel positive about your defeats. Failures are usually a necessary part of success; those who never fail very rarely achieve very much. In any event, our experience is that most people feel more humiliation and embarrassment at their failures than they should. Most other people are too busy with their own lives to point fingers at yours.
We encourage you to stay positive and optimistic as well as be open to zigzags in direction. Sometimes, we need to doggedly persevere in our path while other times changing our route is the right thing to do.
Without knowing you, we can’t give you more specific advice. We would encourage you to find a mentor who can guide you in more practical steps. Depending on which path you have chosen to serve God’s other children, there are wonderful teaching resources available to help you gain in skills and knowledge. Persevere, produce, perform and prosper.
Rabbi Daniel and Susan Lapin