As the massive Republican presidential candidate field narrowed down in 2016, I wrote quite a few Musings sharing my thought processes. Donald Trump was not a natural choice for me, though by the time election night came I was fully on board. This time around, only a few avid never-Trumpers are even thinking of a Republican primary challenger and some of those are openly declaring that they would prefer a Democrat to our current President. I think they are grossly mistaken and astonishingly self-destructive, but they aren’t interested in listening to me. However, some of you might be.
I spent a lot of time during my most active mothering years trying to convey the power of speech to my children. One daughter had a hard time understanding that if she lashed out at a sibling with cruel words, by the next day she might have forgotten her hurtful outburst , but her sibling hadn’t. Other children found my recommendation that when something went wrong they should say, “Dearie, me!” laughable (o.k., it was laughable) but they knew that I had better not hear them saying anything stronger. Name-calling, gossip and crude language was absolutely frowned upon in our house.
For these reasons, I would never hold President Trump up as a role model for carefully considered speech. Neither do I want my sons or grandsons to emulate the way he has treated his marriage vows over the years. Nevertheless, while in 2016 I felt I had no choice but to vote for him, this time around I even more enthusiastically support President Trump’s re-election.
I am also cringing less at his verbal forays than I used to. As my husband pointed out to me, he is who he is. He is not going to change at this point of his life. Like all of us, he is a package deal. I actually think that many of his actions (little mentioned in the media) both from years ago and as president, show him to have extremely positive character traits that vie, as is so often true for all of us, with negative character traits. I certainly don’t think he is worse than others whom the media choose to deify.
Part of President Trump’s package is extremely rare in the political world. He speaks without his words being filtered through layers of political-correctness nannies and damage-control worriers and, in fact, seems often to speak with the intent of goading others into fits of fury and condemnation. He also keeps his word when it comes to things that count. That is the precise opposite of so many we elect to office.
In the world as I would like it to be, being an honorable and upright man would go hand in hand with being an effective, courageous and wise leader, able to win against those who seek to destroy all that is good. In the world as it really is, such men (or women) are rare indeed.
We benefit immensely from those who came before us, many of whom have aspects of their lives that are quite cringeworthy. As Americans we owe debts of gratitude to flawed men like Generals Grant and Patton and to Founding Fathers and presidents whose private lives were less than holy. Make no mistake in thinking that great women or people of other nations are any different in being real people rather than angels.
With the forces of hatred, bullying, socialism, racism, anti-Semitism and violence increasing in the Democrat party and with having endured hearing too much from spineless and/or ineffective Republicans, I would be ungrateful indeed if I did not express my support for President Trump.
Do some of President Trump’s current comments or past actions not live up to my personal standards? A story published in the 1860s of how President Lincoln responded to accusations that General Grant was a drunkard may or may not be based on truth. The anecdote has the president saying that if he knew where General Grant got his whiskey, he would send it to all his other commanders as well. At this point in history, we once again need a warrior, though this time around one who leads citizens rather than soldiers. I expect that next November, President Trump will be exactly the right person capable of defending this wonderful country in which I am blessed to live.