Since we finally got the CD mentioned in this post finished, I’ve linked to it so you can read more about it.
I gather from news reports that a pastor in California has called on his married congregants to commit to seven straight days of sex.
As an attention getting device, both for his members and for the national media, it certainly is effective. It will without a doubt spark conversation when people hear or read the story. I am sure that this will also be a needed battery charge for some of his congregants’ relationships. But as a general marriage enhancement device – I have my doubts.
For two years now my husband and I have been working on the script for our forthcoming audio CD, Madam I’m Adam: Decoding the Secrets of Marriage. It’s taking so long because we are constantly being forced to pick and choose among the valuable lessons revealed in Genesis. Two hours just cannot cover all the messages about marriage that emerge from the lives of Adam and Eve.
But there is one unavoidable conclusion no matter where in those verses we look. God created men and women to be very different and success in marriage is largely a function of embracing those differences.
It seems to me that issuing a general call for married sex ignores each gender’s uniqueness. Without a doubt, many wives under take too lightly their husband’s powerful need for a physical relationship. They underestimate how necessary a vibrant sexual relationship is to a successful marriage.
But too many husbands are blind to their wives compelling need for emotional intimacy. Somehow the idea of posting a virtual score card and forcing a personal act between husband and wife into the public arena seems to respond to one need at the expense of the other.
I wish the pastor and his flock a successful week. But the couples for whom this challenge opens a dialogue about valuing both their natures even as they recoil at the idea of turning the most private marriage act into somewhat of a group activity, may end up being the biggest winners of all.