Yearly Archives: 2007

Letter from radio listener

March 11th, 2007 Posted by On Our Mind 1 comment

There are several ways in which people communicate with me. Some call in to my radio show on Sundays (415) 808-5600 at KSFO San Francisco, while others email me from either or from Either way, I do get the email, read it all, and respond to about 25% even if the response is very brief. Below is an example of a letter that arrived today which I answered. Between working on the newest volume of Genesis Journeys (Clash of Destiny: Decoding the Secrets of Israel and Islam) and my other writing, there is limited time particularly since I greatly enjoy whatever time with my family I can have. The second volume of Genesis Journeys, The Gathering Storm-Decoding the Secrets of Noah will be available on the website very soon…probably within a couple of weeks. Anyway, back to this question I was just asked below….interesting that just this morning, the New York Times (why I read it is the subject of another story) published a front page story about couples who sleep in separate bedrooms! Very interesting. The point is that the couples who do have separate sleeping quarters are, on some level, uncomfortable about it. I am not saying there is anything terrible with the idea as I’d say about shall we say, a bi-coastal marriage or a marriage in which the partners live in different cities and see one another every weekend or every second weekend. That would be a real question mark for me. However, this story describes a way couples adapt to some of the stresses of modern life particularly with two spouses working out of the home. Still, most couples doing this, feel the need to explain it. My point is that deep down, we all know that marriage means being together. It is not merely a socio economic classification. I have to go now, my wife is calling….
Dear John,
An honor to hear from you. No, that is not a correct translation.
One of the next volumes in my audio series Genesis Journeys ( is entitled Madam I’m Adam–Decoding the Marriage Secrets of Eden in which I explain in detail. Suffice for now to say that the Hebrew means not rib but ‘side’…God took the female side of Adam and formed it into a separate being, Eve. He originally made them united in order to teach the lesson forever that marriage is like no other relationship… sister is my sister even if she lives on another continent…my mother and father are my parents no matter how much geography divides us, but my wife and I must be close in proximity.

More later…


Rabbi Daniel Lapin



Dear Rabbi Lapin

I was listening to Native America Calling recently. A woman on the program stated that a Rabbi said to her that in Genesis where “G_d” took a rib from Adam was a wrong translation.

She said the Rabbi told her it was from his penis that Eve came.

Please tell me if that is a true translation.



For the children? Or not?

February 15th, 2007 Posted by Susan's Musings No Comment yet

I have just returned home after sharing in one of the greatest blessings that life provides – celebrating the birth of our newest grandson. With much gratitude to God, we rejoiced at the arrival of a healthy baby into the loving arms of our daughter and her husband.

The pregnancy nausea (nine months worth), the discomfort of labor (well, actually, the outright, incredible pain of labor) were in the past and an unusually peaceful and adorable baby was available for cherishing and protecting. There was, in fact, only one proverbial fly in the ointment.

Almost directly after birth, instead of cuddling in his mother’s arms, the baby needed to face a medical procedure designed to extract blood from his heel as part of the standard, mandated PKU testing, designed to reveal whether the baby is lacking in a necessary enzyme. If that deficiency shows up, carefully monitoring the diet of both the nursing mother and the child can prevent major problems.

Now, as the daughter of a polio survivor, and as someone who is RH incompatible with her husband, I tend to be grateful for immunizations and tests that are available today. However, after asking a few questions, it turns out that the PKU test done in the hospital is in fact given too soon in the baby’s life to give very accurate results. It needs to be repeated a short time later. So why is it done?

Here, in my opinion, is the inexcusable answer. Testing is mandated in the hospital because some parents don’t take their infants in for the scheduled check-ups. In other words, my grandson needs to have his first few hours in the world become, even for a short time, a period of pain surrounded by strangers, because other newborns’ parents can’t be trusted.

Isn’t this a little young to teach a new citizen the lesson that when society legislates its rules on the assumption that people are too stupid, too poor, too uneducated, too irresponsible, etc, etc., to take care of themselves, it ends up punishing those who work on themselves to become wise, wealthy, educated and responsible – and their families? That taking care of people as if they were animals who need a farmer to manage them doesn’t end up making everyone better off, but actually makes the lives of most people worse?

I know that’s the reality of life in America today for adults – but as a grandma, it sure hurts when it reaches straight into the life of my newest treasure.


Not the Charlotte’s Web I Recall

January 23rd, 2007 Posted by Susan's Musings 2 comments

What do you think of when you remember Charlotte’s Web? Maybe pigs and spiders, or perhaps you are surrounded by memories of cuddling under a blanket and reading, possibly the first stirrings of recognition that there was a relationship between the food on your plate and animals. (As a Jew who kept kosher, the book might have been an easier read for me) Whatever your memories are, they probably didn’t include high school students having affairs with their teachers or participating in a host of other immoral and un-childlike behaviors.

Which is why it was incredibly disturbing to me when I approached a copy of Charlotte’s Web prominently displayed in a bookstore on a shelf advertising “Recommended Reading for Children”, and found that the book featured next to it included the above depravities.

What is the manager of that bookstore thinking? And how sad is it that parents can’t allow their children the liberating pleasure of freely browsing through the children’s section of a bookstore or the library without having to worry about what they will find. With all the (necessary) warnings about children being accidentally exposed to pornography and other evils on the web, how about a little concern for what they will find in what we think of as safe locations?

Using judgment and taking the responsibility for what children see should be an obligation every children’s librarian and bookstore owner accepts. The fact that the government shouldn’t censor reading material is unrelated to whether adults in positions of trust should. In the years that passed between when my eldest and youngest daughters each became voracious readers and devoted bookshelf browsers I saw a scary change in the offerings on those shelves. I’m not talking age appropriate realism – I’m talking age inappropriate depictions and the presentation of deviation as the norm. What a sad reality it is when any caring parent today has to know that the sheltered harbors of their childhood, the libraries and bookstores, are no longer protected environments


Peter Singer’s Upside Down World

January 9th, 2007 Posted by Susan's Musings 1 comment

“March Hare: …Then you should say what you mean.
Alice: I do; at least – at least I mean what I say — that’s the same thing, you know.”

I wonder if Professor Peter Singer recently read Alice in Wonderland and decided to base his philosophies on the combined wisdom of the March Hare, Mad Hatter and Doormouse. If not, it’s rather difficult to understand his piece in December 17th’s New York Times Magazine. I disagreed with his premises and conclusions from start to finish, but more intriguing to me was his avoidance of the fact that he disagrees with himself as well.

Prof. Singer, professor of bioethics at the Center for Human Values at Princeton University states, “…most of us would agree that the value of a human life would be in the millions.” Excuse me? This from a man who has previously advocated that handicapped newborns should be killed and that the same should be true for the elderly who are no longer contributing members of society?

All of a sudden he’s filled with the milk of human kindness and charity to all. Not with his own money, mind you. Instead, he suggests that others – like Warren Buffett and Bill and Melinda Gates – are obligated to end world poverty using their own funds.

The entire piece is a sanctimonious, self-righteous paean. This in the end might indeed bring it into line with the professor’s previous declarations. Because, in the past, while he was proposing that ethics necessitated shortening the lives of the elderly, he excluded his own mother from his conclusions. Now, as before, Prof. Singer has written a piece that demands no changes in his own life while making the case for overturning the lives of others. And if that is the basis for his philosophy of life, then he is indeed consistent.


Everyone Struggles with Resolutions Especially me!

January 9th, 2007 Posted by Thought Tools 1 comment

Making and Breaking Those Pesky New Year’s Resolutions

Most Americans make New Year resolutions during December and then break them by February. Ancient Jewish wisdom offers some insights into why we make them, why we break them, and looks at some ways to imbue these resolutions with more durability.

Why do we resolve to improve ourselves annually as New Year approaches? This is mostly because, unlike animals, we humans are tormented by deep subconscious anguish at the gap between what we are and what we could be. This deep self-awareness resides in the soul and is one of the best indicators of the soul’s existence.

We all know we could become better people. Better spouses, better parents, better siblings, better employees or employers, or better friends. We know we could be thinner and healthier. We know we could be more prosperous as well as more generous.

What is more, we all know exactly how to achieve these longed-for goals. We know that to be better spouses we need to be more thoughtful, giving, predictable, and cheerful. We know that in order to become better parents, we need to be more patient and consistent. Becoming a better friend, a better employee or better sibling isn’t hard. A little thought will reveal exactly what we need to do. We know that in order to be thinner and healthier we need to eat and exercise wisely.

None of these areas of self improvement for which we yearn involves inscrutable mystery. We know what to do in order to achieve the ends we desire, so why don’t we just do it?

One source of ancient Jewish wisdom is a volume entitled Ethics of The Fathers. Its fourth chapter opens by asking this question, “Who really is mighty?” The question is being asked in order to identify the Biblically correct answer to that question which turns out to be, “He who has mastered the ability to control himself.”

Military tradition has long understood that long before you can hope to control others, you have to have the ability to control yourself. Ethics of The Fathers teaches that true strength isn’t forcing our will onto others as much as it is conquering our own weaknesses.

The great English poet, John Milton, expressed this idea beautifully when he wrote about Oliver Cromwell.

“He first acquired the government of himself, and over himself acquired the most signal victories, so that on the first day he took the field against the external enemy, he was a veteran in arms…”

John Milton was actually very well versed in ancient Jewish wisdom and was certainly influenced by Ethics of The Fathers.

It is thus clear that with a bit more self-discipline, we could do what we know we ought to do. That leaves the question of how to acquire more self-discipline? I would say by treating the quest as a war, and, as in all wars, one must know one’s enemy. Who is your enemy? Who thwarts your ambitions and obstructs the path to your dreams more than anyone else? Yes, that’s right—you!

You are your own worst enemy. But at the same time you are also your own strongest ally. As strange as this may seem, in order to truly benefit from ancient Jewish wisdom, you need to start seeing yourself as two people. One of you is all wise, all rational and always dedicated to the long term good. That’s your soul. The other one of you tries to talk you into short term delights. That is your body. Think of yourself as Pinocchio and Jiminy Cricket wrapped up in one human body. The only question is who is going to lead?

Learning to see yourself in this split fashion is the giant key to self discipline, the avenue to knowing how to lead yourself. Knowledgeable Jewish parents instill this concept of self into their young children and thus contribute to their success later in life.

One part of you is encouraging you to do what you know you ought to be doing. At exactly the same moment, the second part of your makeup is feverishly trying to persuade you to do what you really feel like doing. What a simple and true explanation for the turmoil that we all feel when confronted with certain choices. By understanding this crucial insight and, more importantly, putting it to use, not only can you expect to dramatically increase your self control, you can also confidently anticipate saving yourself thousands of dollars in therapy fees.

Thus we see that the annual exercise of New Year’s resolutions is really an acknowledgement of our souls yearning to soar to self improvement. And we see that our regular shattering of those resolutions is nothing but the triumph of the body over the soul. Sort of like our inner Pinocchio beating up our Jiminy Cricket. It is following our hearts instead of our heads, our bodies instead of our souls.

All of which provides clues to why we make resolutions and why we break them, but is there anything we can do to make them a bit more long-lasting? As usual, Abraham, the father of monotheism, offers some advice. The fourteenth chapter of Genesis describes a war in which Abraham defeated the enemies of the king of Sodom and liberated their captives. The malevolent monarch offered Abraham all the spoils of the war provided he could reclaim his subjects. Not wanting to give the Sodomite sovereign the opportunity of boasting how he had enriched him, Abraham demurred.

However, he didn’t just say “No thanks.” Instead he goes through an elaborate ritual of lifting his hand toward heaven and vowing that he’d take nothing. In other words, he knew how difficult it would be to resist the temptation of instant wealth so he invoked the assistance of an ally—God. Abraham knew that he couldn’t be sure that he would never let himself down, but he felt reasonably confident that he’d not let God down. That is why he brought God in on his resolution, which of course is exactly what converted his resolution into a vow.

The soul’s constant struggle for dominance over the body is nearly always doomed without an ally. Even another human being can be an enormous help. In other words, telling a close friend of your resolution can help you keep it. Each of us prefers to retain the regard of our friends and knowing that our friend is watching our resolve can help greatly.

Following Abraham’s lead and involving God in our resolutions makes for even a higher probability of durability. If it is just me, I can always rationalize interrupting my diet regimen with a quick midnight trip to the refrigerator. If doing so will disappoint my friend in whom I confided my determination to lose weight, I am strengthened in my ability to ignore the summons of my stomach enzymes as they try to tug me to that refrigerator. If, in addition to confiding in my friend, I have promised God during my prayers that I would honor my body by losing weight, that midnight food foraging expedition becomes unthinkable.

The mistake that most of us make each December is thinking that our New Year resolutions must be kept private. Not one of us can make it through life’s journey without the support of other human beings and it is sheer folly to try and win the war against oneself without that support.

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