Dale Carnegie’s book How to Win Friends and Influence People appeared years before Mark Zuckerberg elevated the importance of acquiring friends on Facebook. Yet, most healthy people realize that collecting “friends” only to further your own interests or in a fake world has nothing in common with establishing authentic relationships.
Let’s see if we can get an insight into real relationships through an unexpected Biblical connection:
And out of the ground the Lord God formed every beast of the field
and every bird of the air and brought them to Adam
to see what he would call them…
God brought Adam two categories of creatures (i) every beast of the field; (ii) every bird of the air.
And Adam called names to all the cattle, and to the birds of the air,
and to every beast of the field…
Surprisingly, Adam named three categories (i) cattle, (ii) the birds of the air (iii) the beasts of the field.
We have a problem: Not only does Adam reverse the order of birds and beasts, but he names an entirely new category—cattle.
As is so often true, the answers lie in the Lord’s language—Hebrew.
Here are the opening three words from Genesis 2:20. I know you may not read Hebrew (yet) but gaze upon these words as graphic elements. (The middle word is Adam.)
ויקרא האדם שמות
And Adam called names
Now view the Hebrew names for the books of Exodus and Leviticus:
Do you see the similarities? Ancient Jewish wisdom teaches that the answers to the mysteries of Genesis 2:20 can be found in the transition from Exodus to Leviticus.
The very end of Exodus describes how God cements his relationship with Israel by providing them with ever-present visible protection throughout all their journeys via Heavenly clouds and a pillar of fire. In response, Leviticus opens with Israel strengthening its relationship with God by bringing Him offerings. The Hebrew word used for offering or sacrifice is Korban which actually means ‘getting close’.
In other words, close and authentic relationships are brought about by giving to the other. Find ways to do favors for friends. (If you mistakenly think sacrifice has a negative connotation—as in, “Look how much I sacrificed for you,”—there is an entire chapter on the word Korban and the practical life applications of it in our book Buried Treasure.)
Giving a name is an intimate act of closeness. When we address people by name, we initiate connection and acknowledge their individuality. Parents name newborns; lovers give one another pet names. In naming the creatures, Adam is establishing a relationship between man and animals. Thus, he distinguishes between them, ordering them by degrees of closeness to humans. He first introduces a new category— cattle. Cattle include those animals that work together with humans to the benefit of both. Adam places birds next because birds bring music and color to our homes and gardens. Finally, he names beasts, those animals that avoid human habitation and with whom we have least relationship.
“Friending” people on Facebook is easy. Real relationships demands a ‘give and take’ relationship. We discover ways to do things of value for others and are simultaneously willing to accept what they give to us.
Forging a special relationship with one individual in marriage is our most important bond. It is so critical, that God embedded directions for doing so in multiple verses at the beginning of Genesis. I explore these in depth of one of the four volumes of our Genesis Journeys Set. Each of these 2 CD audio volumes (8 CDs in total) go beneath the surface of Scripture, to provide practical guidance and life lessons to best understand and function in today’s complex world.
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