Posts tagged " baby "

I Want More Children-My Husband Doesn’t

October 20th, 2016 Posted by Ask the Rabbi 14 comments

Question:

Hello, I am 41 with 2 children ages 8 and 10.  I have been begging my husband for a third child for nearly 3 years now and he will not allow it. He says he does not want another child, and I am so upset, angry and heartbroken. I feel like it’s unfair of him to steal my right to procreate and that this is not really his decision. Why does he get what he wants and I am left without?

Please tell me how I can get him to change his mind. I am furious and grieving all at the same time, and it is destroying our marriage.

Marianna

Answer:

Dear Marianna,

You sound very desperate and suffering as you long for another baby. If this has been going on for three years, then we can understand that your marriage has suffered.

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I’m crushed by a miscarriage

April 1st, 2015 Posted by Ask the Rabbi No Comment yet

Question:

My wife and I have recently lost our baby girl at 29 weeks for unanswerable reasons though various tests have been completed.  We know that we must place all our trust in YHVH and His Words.rWhat does Jewish Wisdom speak of mourning versus grieving?
 
The Book of Job has been speaking much louder to me at this time. Can you offer guidance as we study through Job’s experience and restoration?
 
Thank you

∼ Scott S.

Answer:

Dear Scott,

We not only deeply sympathize with you, but having undergone the same experience (twice) we empathize as well. Your hearts had already expanded to include a daughter and now your extended hands will be empty. Truly, even if medical tests discover a heart defect or other complication that wasn’t compatible with life, you would still be grieving. The happy dreams you were imagining won’t come to fruition.

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